THE RUBBISHIFICATION OF GRACE!!!

Do I begin by tendering an apology for my absence from my duty post in over a month? I have been AWOL and I hope I will not be court marshalled. Please forgive me.


What's in a name? Would a rose still smell as sweet if it is called by any other name?


Names are very important. They are like identity tags, they are confessional statements telling of hopes of a preferred future, they tell of the depth of parental love and the circumstances surrounding ones birth, for some people, even believe that ones personality or character can be determined from ones name.


In almost all African cultures, much consideration is usually given in naming children.
Many African names carry great meaning. I know that Yoruba names carry great meanings. That's why for the life of me, I can't understand the new trend for misspelling names by young people these days.


Why would someone named Adeoluwa ( The Crown of God), prefer to spell their name as 'Hardayholowar', Ololade is now spelt as 'Hololarday'.
Can someone help me understand the rationale for this absurd attitude. To me, this alternative mode of spelling Yoruba names robs the name of its meaning and very 'razz'. I say 'razz' because in trying to pronounce the the names as they are spelt forces one to emphasize the wrong syllables. When Adeoluwa is spelt as 'Hardayholowar', the vowel sound 'a' is wrongly emphasized by the unnecessary addition of the 'h' sound which is wrong and it encourages what is known as the 'mother tongue influence' in diction.
I hope this fad would pass over quickly. Our Yoruba names are lovely and bestow much grace on the bearer. Misspelling them makes rubbish of that grace.


AUNTY MO.

THE RULES OF ENGAGEMENT.... AND DISENGAGEMENT!!!

Some of the things I read in the news just glides off my mind. I tend to take them as stuff that happen to other people, until someone close to me shares a similar experience.

About a month ago, I read in the papers, a sad story of a successful business woman who was brutally murdered in her home by her young boyfriend, who then ran off with her money and other belongings. The story was so moving that I began to wonder at the price some women pay for love and acceptance.

SURPRISE!!!.....ER..... NOT!!!

 So Auntie Bu' is a darling. A real sweetheart. Beautiful inside and out, soft spoken gentle and lovable. A devoted wife and mother. Though as I've been told, she can be a real lioness if anyone tries to mess with her boys o - Auntie Bu' has five boys, that is if you count in Uncle Chi too.
Auntie Bu' doesn't socialize much, she has very few friends, according Bi' her younger sister, Auntie Bu' suffered terrible betrayal from some of her close friends and that has caused her to withdraw from socializing. It is also Bi' that told us that Auntie Bu' hasn't celebrated her birthday since she was sixteen!!! Can you believe that!!!

DO AS I SAY, DON'T DO AS I DO!!!

 My parents used to talk about a Bishop who used to say 'Do as I say, don't do as I do'.  

AH, NO O!!! ONCE IS JUST ENOUGH!!!

Its so sad when one looses a loved one.

It really must be traumatic to loose a friend, an ally, a lover and a compatriot.

The death of a spouse can't be easy to bear at all especially when that loved on has been responsible in duty.

I always wonder what must be going on in the minds of widowed women as the wail over the loss of their husbands.

Could they be wailing the loss of a breadwinner? Could their cries be from fear of not knowing how to continue alone? Could it be because they cannot tell what fate awaits them in the hands of cruel relatives and evil traditions?

       or could it just be borne out of obligation so that people wont think she didn't love her husband or worse.....

APRIL IS CHILD ABUSE PREVENTION MONTH!!!

Such a sad day for humanity when we choose to admit to our collective ineptitude by dedicating a whole month to 'Child Abuse Prevention'. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t object to the fact that we have dedicated a period in time to bring issues of 'Child Abuse' to our attention, but what I am saying is that the fact that abuses against children occur at all to even warrant the dedication of a whole month is sad.

A TALE OF MONEY, LOVE AND TRUST

 In a program I watched on TV a few weeks ago, the topic of discussion was

 'Whether or not married women should disclose the details of their finances to their husbands'.

It was quite funny that a very significant number of women ( the discussants & callers), for various reasons admitted to keeping money secrets from their husbands.

 Some of their reasons ranged from:

                                        past infidelity
                                        financial recklessness
                                        in-law issues etc.

Sure some women called in to say that it isn't wise to keep money secrets or any secret for that matter, from ones spouse, but they were in the minority so they didn't 'win' that day.

I was going to call in with a recount of a true life story but I feared the 1 minute alloted to each caller wouldn't be enough for me and whats the point in a half told story? So here I come with the story, hopefully it'll help someone out there.

FAMILIAR FOES!!!

Children of the same parents - same father, same mother as we say, raised in the same household, with the same values, attended the same schools, given the same opportunities, probably shared each others stuff.....

They should grow up to be friends    ABI?

THANK YOU GOD....

My son's bedtime prayer had us all in stitches last night.

 In Jesus name,

         thank you God for our food, because we are not hungry,

         thank you God that we wear our slippers so that we do not step on dirty floors,

         thank you God that we do not touch electricity,

         thank you God that we did not dig the sand with our hands,

         thank you God that we did not fight,

         thank you God for everything,

         in Jesus name I pray.

Children,God bless them.

LETS TALK ABOUT SEX

Ehn???

Gulp.

Yes now, lets talk about sex.

OK..... Shoot!!!

Something I read on Eya Ayambem's blog this morning got me thinking about how as parents, we our children in relation to 'the birds and the bees'.

When I was growing up,

MY WORRIES.

I have a lot of concern for the future of our world - serious concerns.

Today, I am particularly bothered about the apparent irresponsibility in the entertainment media. The media does a lot in shaping thinking, beliefs and behaviour of people and so it is imperative that media practitioners are alive to their responsibilities.

My rant today is about childrens' entertainment.

WHY I BELIEVE SO MUCH IN NURTURING FAMILIES.

 

 

The family is the bedrock of any society or country.

Strong families make strong societies.

The society is nothing but a reflection of the condition of the families within it.

Where family values are lacking, where family structures are broken down, the society is affected adversely.